Dis-engagement

This one's a bit delicate: Exit points

(She sighs... but it's worth understanding, so let's explore it anyway.)

So, in the long walk around, this is really a conversation about exit points. Now, exit points can exist in many circumstances and at varying times in our lives. Perhaps it's a job, a partnership, maybe it's a relationship, and for some it may even be a life.

There is a need for exits in our life, they create opportunity for new experience, and also for changes in energetic dynamic. This is why there is a need to know the various exit point constructs.

When we are talking about doors, we are talking about a state of consciousness used to establish a movement.

Dis-engagement is dark empathy.

It is the roost that can’t be seen for what it is, so silently backpedals all its energetic force into a new sense of direction.

In the Tao, there is a deeply rooted behaviour for every energetic, we live with these experiences daily, without really knowing what these feelings are. When you are living in an experience that is challenging you, it's important to know how feeling is being expressed. You're best tool for awareness is understanding feelings and when you get clear on the source of the feeling, exits can be made with clarity and compassion.

With a clearer understanding of feelings we can start to explore our reason, our method, and our motive. If for whatever reason, you attempt to extract yourself from 'the feeling experience' by route of an exit, it's pretty normal to try and make it more palatable, to yourself and to others. Really, this is an act of disengagement.

I suspect that we all have had some exeperience of this in our lives at some point. It takes a profound level of awareness to know what the architecture of this is. And once you do, you'll perhaps understand a difficult experience in your life more clearly.

In relationship dynamics, energetically, there are three exit points: the front door exit, the side door exit, and the back door exit. How does disengagement or dark empathy present?

Dark empathy uses dark rationalization.

• It won’t seem so painful if I quietly walk away in the other direction.

• It won’t seem so dishonest if I simply claim to be doing what is best for me.

• It won’t seem so disturbing when I turn in a whole new direction without being seen for what it is—an exit point.

This is the term I’d use from now on; dis-engagement is an exit point that is looking for a new path forward without ruffling feathers. It’s a simple process, but it leaves distortion in its wake.

Best to be honest. Try some front door exit alternatives, like:

• ‘It’s all about you now.’ Is an acceptable answer.

• ‘It’s all about me now.’ Is an acceptable answer.

  
  

It’s the simplest way forward; be in your truth.

The Challenge of Self-defining in an Energetic Construct

Keep in mind that it always leaves a bad taste in your mouth when you are talking about waylaying an energetic that has been present for so long that you can’t define yourself apart from it. That’s the hazard of ritualistic behaviour; you don’t know whether you’re coming or going, you’re just in it.

This is the benefit of a side door exit; it breaks free of the momentum of the current rhythm without destruction. It allows a pause to gather perspective, time, or space. It will sequentialize experience, allowing room to understand where and what choice is or has been made.

So practice being in your worth. It takes guts to be straightforward.

And remember, exit points are not bad things; they are also entry points from a new direction.

The thing you need to be clear on is: ‘How do I want my wake to behave?’ Gentle enough to water the flowers around the front porch swing? Or upending the house in ruination? It is a choice, and when you’re in your power, you’ll learn to look in both directions before crossing the threshold.

I saw it this way.

~ A Girl

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Feeling Words: Front Door Exit, Side Door Exit, Back Door Exit

The Architecture of an Exit Point

Front Door Exit: Be in your integrity. A full-blooded “I’m outta here” is somewhat confrontational and lacks a certain level of respect. Consider speaking your truth from the heart, and then simply trust that the energy will unfold itself where it needs to reposition.

Side Door Exit: An energy that was leaving its way through the side door will still substantiate enough cosmetic force to be understood as good will. Side door exits allow a break without reason; they just are. Popped outside for a minute or two; needed to see something differently.

Back Door Exit: Slinking out the back door is what you’ll be remembered for because it was the departing energetic of disapproval, without the formalized recognition of what it was—a need to break free.

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A little bit about Me.

My name is Janice Brown, and I am both a doctor of Chinese Medicine and a Reverend who writes and talks about life from a metaphysical perspective. My understandings of the Tao and Emotional Relevance come from these two veins of understanding. To me, the work I do is Spiritual Care.

I’ve been working with the Tao as long as I’ve lived; and so have you. Here’s what that means to me: I’m a problem solver and I use the Tao as a framework for my discussion. In my writing, I share with you how I use it, and you can decide if that’s helpful for you or not.

I write from the Heart in the moment, specifically from my point of view. You may not have seen it this way, but that's the whole point—to turn it around and look at it another way. ~ Janice.