Dynamic Relationships: Counterparts

Janice Brown
Aug 7, 2024
8 min read

Trajectories of the Tao, by Janice Brown

Dynamic Relationships: Counterparts two lily flowers standing beside each other in a pond, the reflection of both in the water

Natural Rhythms of Life and Living

Mystery unraveled. Counterpart relationships are a home run in the organic chemistry component of life!

It’s truly one of the great blessings of life to have a deep awareness of the intricacies and proclivities of a counterpart relationship. We all have them, whether we are aware of them or not. They come in big and small packages, wrapped in a bow with a little duct tape from time to time.

You may think this means that everything comes up roses and nobody has to do any heavy lifting, well you would be prejudiced by some fast talking tell-all romance and dialoging handbooks that are frequently found on the market today.

What it means to be in a counterpart relationship is that there is a dynamic energy present that allows for each partner to reach for their fullness in a way that doesn’t need to compromise the energy of the whole.

There is a tandem effort in contribution that may seem quite different than it looks like on hallmark card or even for that matter, traditional wedding vows. And counterpart relationships aren't only romantic relationships, they can be with any dynamic that comes and folds itself easiliy into your life and then suddenly and certainly shifts into a more powerful or more seemingly catastrophic experience, and that's why it's important to understand how these relationships behave. These are awarenesses that we are going to talk about quite intricately over time.

Counterparts are energetic matchmaking systematizers.

They pull together in ways you don’t understand and then they just stand tall and wait for the right moment to become more than they already are. That may seem like a tall task, but in certain organic chemistry components, we can see this in a replicable facilitation of sorts.

One of the most profound and dynamic relationships of them all is the relationship of air to water; now not everyone really thinks about this but there is an interesting phenomenon that may become more of a mainstream understanding in the dynamic of interpersonal relationships and this is where we are going today; into the depths of inner certainty that can’t be compelled or organized any other way.

Hmm… interesting. Now, why is that?

Why can it only be organized this way and not that? That is the dynamic of centrifugal force organizing its own inner structure in a way that can be self-regulated and optimally orchestrated. And completion of this task requires an independent energetic force that corrals the energetic into a new formation.

It's not that the freedom to choose doesn’t exist, it’s that it is accelerated to a new platform of understanding. And this is where things can get a little dicey and a little treacherous for those who are faint of heart.

Counterparts will create a realtime expereince that spontaneously ejects the energetic rhythm that compels it out of its natural alignment. This dynamic is often know as the time of your life or the very worst experience you have ever known. The time of your life because suddenly there's no longer an energetic of dynamic force that is pushing or pulling you in any direction and also the greatest fear because suddenly you are without bearings.

Now people know and understand this as a loss of worth from an external dynamic and also a resilience of worth through a new trajectory of understanding the self. The self prevails and so the self is the relationship that is being harnessed in these expereinces. And so that there's no uncertain understanding, let's be clear that the power of the self must be held in congruence long enough for the dynamic of the counterpart relationship to hold in its energetic rhythm. Without certainty of self, there will always feel a lack of certainty of choice, perhaps like you're being taken along for the ride and you're not sure you wanted to get on it in the first place.

How do you navigate this? Trust Further.

It takes guts to stand at the precipice of your life and watch the Heart say, ‘this not that:that not this’. It feels like a temporary momentum buster and for all those within reach of this orchestration, yourself included, it can also feel like the rug ripped out from under you, or tossed down the corridor of lost hope and a breach of trust. It’s not that trust has been breached, it's that it has been pushed to its limit and held. That is a hell of a rock star moment.

One day you will be called to this, and the answer is Trust Further.

Can you imagine the worst thing possible and then having the wherewithal to step forward and say, “Still standing. Still here.”

Phew! But what does that have to do within anything that matters, like living the life of your dreams or stepping forward in the most powerful way possible?

It has a lot to do with physics and momentum. And this is where you might not realize it, is where you may have been standing; at the precipice of congruence (being in resonance with your own rhythm) but waiting for a slip and fall to happen to prove to yourself that you can make it. To demonstrate in real time, you are strong enough to forebear the worst potential outcome for the simple reason that, you can’t believe it can be any other way. Ugghhhh.

Yikes! What a bombshell of distortion for you and those around you. No one enjoys this. But...

Here’s where things start getting really good, with your new evidence backed scenario you have a new manifestation of purpose. A new way to see yourself step forward, and often, that’s enough to say either, ‘I told you so’ or ‘I see things differently now’ and seeing things differently is what we are talking about in this article.

Now, I can comment about this pretty freely, I’ve been working with these materials and in this field for the better part of my life now. But the thing that remains the most intriguing to me is the fundamental awareness that is encapsulated in every single thing that we do, that most of us are completely unaware of.

Step 1. For you to react, you had an awareness.

Step 2. You expressed a preference.

Step 3. You align to your new experience. Wanted or unwanted.

And there you have a perfect recipe for either an organized free-for-all, or a cataclysmic destruction of order that may feel like you are watching your life self-destruct.

What’s the difference between self-destruction and contracting into a new form that allows freedom and expansion?

In a counterpart relationship this is a symbiotic dance, and whether you can see the structure and organization or not is irrelevant, the truth is, it is there and you’ll know it by the sudden feeling of safety that feels like an invisible embrace as you are hard in the trenches trying to figure it all out.

There’s a place that evolves from an internal mechanism that can’t be bound by societal or external pressures of forces. It simply evolves and brings itself forward and this may seem like a perplexing dilemma suddenly sorting itself out in the most unexpected of ways. Or perhaps a new found freedom that encompasses your own hopes and dreams. But the one thing that stands true no matter what, is that you are held by an invisible force and that force is a loving dynamic that doesn’t look like it sounds.

It’s there when you fall forward and catch yourself just before you hit the dirt.
It’s there when you drop your last dollar down the billfold and finally see that the abundance of your life is your life itself.
It’s there when you request a letter from an old friend and they send you down the road to look at a new map on the hallway wall that has directions to exactly where you are looking to go.
It’s there when you say, ‘I can’t do this anymore’ and then you stop and the world around you reorganizes itself around you, so you can do the thing in a better more powerful way.

It’s what you call fate or good will, sometimes self-actualization, and oftentimes unprecedented experience. And that’s when you know it's all self-organized.

Self-organization

Self-organization has ‘no things’ in the wrong space, everything has its own requirement and every requirement is met. This goes beyond logic and reason and in fact the application of these two strange bedfellows can throw a whole lot of kink in your plans. Your plans move independent of your orchestrations, so it's a bit of a showstopper/time waster approach when you try to put it all into a nice little package to sell off the shelf.

The thing is once you understand the dynamic of interdependent and independent relationships you’re going to start to see where each of these elements has stepped forward and made a difference in the whole overall.

That’s the thing about these organic relationships, they have their own chemistry and it doesn’t have to be anything other than a simple feeling of ease and an unwavering approach to openness.

Openness is one of the key requirements, this is a friendship of the highest sort. It will always presume to be a certain way, until it finds itself forwarding itself into its own construct and flow. And that’s how we need to begin to look at relationship dynamics, as a tool we can trust. As a challenge and a hope delivered hand-in-hand.

The thing about relationship dynamics is there’s a natural ebb and flow. Were I to try and capture that essence in a single moment, it would look different every time but still have the energetic properties and stabilities of an energetic pairing. Now, energetic pairings are important to understand, they have an energy all their own. And what may not be obvious to some, is deeply and powerfully understandable in construct.

Energetic Pairings

This is fundamental to the nature of the Tao. In the Tao, these energetic pairings are known as Hexagrams, they are independent and interdependent. They require the conglomerate energy of the pairing to bring the most powerful stability and yet they function independently within the whole to maintain a symbiotic balance. This is the dynamic energetic known as flow. Flow exists because there is an opportunity for the residual energy that is not part of the constitutional makeup to be reassembled as inert, or without resistance.

Now in terms of energetics what this means is that residual energetics are no longer able to transform the core energy at will. And ‘at will’ becomes a mainstream distortion. The distortion being that there are more components to the energetic than are understood.

Once you start to see this, you’ll see it every time. Until then, understand that the most powerful influence that can be felt for the independent energetic is the counterpart.

Janice

Trajectories of the Tao

by Rev. Janice Brown DTCM, sp.M (master), CS.p

Janice is both a doctor of Chinese medicine and a Reverend with a metaphysical practice that specializes in the Tao. This includes exploring the 'Me', the independent or the individual. The individual benefit of understanding the wisdom of the Tao and the application of these understandings in your own life experience. This also includes the 'We', the collective whole. The collective benefit is to begin to see that we have an interdependence that is so intrinsic to the framework of living that we can not go a single day without the collective experience being enfolded into our personal life experience.

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